94 On The Many Tantras

Beloveds,

Love.
You are both right.
You can avoid judgement by seeing how you are connected to who you would judge, to see your reflection; and you can avoid judgement by showing up and being in the moment, being open to what is, you will not judge.
Its interesting, isn't it, that this is an example of two different techniques, two different Tantras to the same end?

If you see the reflection, then you don't judge.
If you show up, then you can't judge.
If you are honest, then you won't judge.

Any of these will work.
Some are easier to a given person than others.

Consider the different methods, then do what works.

Love
Swami